How To Maintain Strong Eye Contact With Women
It all starts with a glance. Two people’s eyes meet, and opinions are made within seconds. The eyes are said to be the gate to the soul of a human being. Indeed, our eyes, how we look, how long we look, and in which direction we look tells other people more about us than most individuals realize. Nevertheless, many people do not know what different signs mean, and they do not realize how important a strong eye contact can be.
Eye contact is especially important during the process of flirting. Not only is it a way for men and women to display their intentions and their potential affection towards a specific person, but it also sends strong signals as to how one perceives the other person, and whether it is desirable to get to know each other.
According to the book, and in its most classical way, men will typically spot a woman they like and fix their gaze on them. If she notices him, she will look back. If she likes him, she will look a bit longer than what would be described as ‘socially acceptable’, after which she looks downward.
The big variables with eye contact is first of the duration. Prolonged eye contact is a strong signal of interest. It can be used at all stages during the flirting process, and it typically means ‘go on, I like what I am seeing / hearing’. Usually, the person speaking will look away a bit more often than the person listening. If it is accompanied with a smile, this is very powerful. Additionally, strong eye contact is a sign of dominance. Therefore, men tend (and should) keep their glance longer than women. This can be compared to the animal kingdom, where looking down is strong submissive behavior.
Second of all, it is important to notice how eye contact is broken. As said above, looking down is a strong submissive signal. In order for women to like men in a sexual way, they should never feel stronger or better than him. Therefore, if women break eye contact by looking down, it is a strong positive signal. If she looks away by looking sideways, it is a fairly neutral signal. If, however, women break eye contact by looking upwards, it is their way of saying ‘you don’t stand a change boy, get out of here’.
Because of all the different signals the eyes provide us with, maintaining strong eye contact with women is important during the entire flirting process. On the one side, men signal confidence and leadership by establishing eye contact with women and maintaining it. Naturally, it should be a friendly glance, not a scary gaze. On the other side, men can read from her reaction how she feels about it, and whether she is inviting him to take it a step further or not.